Q. My granddaughter just headed off to college. I am so proud of her! I have always lived nearby and we’re very close. How can I keep our connection now that she’s off at college?
A. Heading off to college is a big milestone. Congratulations to your granddaughter! It’s wonderful that you’ve built a special bond over the years, and there’s no reason it can’t stay strong. The way you connect will just look a little different now.
With Grandparents Day this month, it’s the perfect time to celebrate the important role grandparents play. Research shows that having a good relationship with a grandparent or another significant older adult can influence a teen’s life choices, values, and goals, giving them a sense of self. Studies have also shown that college students who have a strong support system at home do better in college. So good for you for thinking about ways to keep your connection with your granddaughter at this important time in her life. Here are some simple ways to stay in touch:
Reach out now and then – Send a photo, an update from home, or a funny meme. Just don’t overdo it and don’t worry if she can’t always respond right away.
Share a game – If your granddaughter is into games, challenge her in Words with Friends or another app that you can both enjoy at your own pace.
Plan a visit – Consider visiting during Family Weekend or another special event. Just let her take the lead on timing, so it feels like a treat, not an obligation.
Follow her school – Check the website or social media for campus news. It’s a good way to see what’s going on in her world and spark conversation.
Send a care package – Pack up a few of her favorite homemade treats or little gifts to brighten her day. Include a note reminding her you are proud of her and maybe toss in a few extras for her roommates or hallmates.
Whatever you choose, keep it light and pressure-free. The most important thing is to let her know she has your love and support. Even small gestures can go a long way toward keeping you close while she’s away.
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Joan Hatem-Roy is the chief executive officer of AgeSpan, which serves Andover, Groveland, Haverhill, Lawrence, Methuen and North Andover.